Wholehearted

I’m currently reading Brene Brown’s book “Daring Greatly” after Joy Prouty’s workshop brought to light a lot of hidden ways that I was hiding from unforeseen pain and not living an authentic life. I’ve always seen myself as authentic, but as I’ve grown older I’ve noticed how my honesty has turned into cynicism and my faith became a shield to numb unforeseen pain and fear. Instead of walking forward with courage in my faith in gentleness towards others, I was simply hiding and hoping that I wouldn’t have to experience anymore pain.

In her book she talks about how one of the ways we protect ourselves from vulnerability is “foreboding joy” (the others were perfectionism to avoid shame from others, addiction, and numbness to avoid any pain at all-which numbs ALL emotion and connection), she talked about how people can’t fully embrace joy in the moment because they are so afraid that things are so good that something horrible must be around the corner. This blew my mind. It is exactly how I’ve lived for the last 12 years after a family situation left me blindsided… always bracing for calamity by making up horror scenarios in my mind and when little waves of it do come true, I am so numb that it comes and goes without much effect on my emotions. I’ve turned into a tough girl that can do it all and be under the weight of it all without any effect. I even endured my 2 homebirths under this mantra.- “you can do it, you won’t die… most likely. Just be tough”.

Today I chose real, unadulterated joy for the first time in YEARS. I saw my children and was in the moment with them, I wasn’t distracted by fear of some unknown that could happen to them or numb by just trying to make it through another day of motherhood. I saw the cloud of fear approach several times and I told it to go away, because I was going to choose joy.

I want to live a wholehearted life and and that means risking everything daily by being open and living in the present without defense mechanisms to “protect” me, when in fact they only keep me from fully living connected. I don’t know what tomorrow holds, but I am going to shut the “shame tape” off and live fully engaging with people around me.

No more cynicism, disconnection, or numbness. I want to fully trust God with my life and take it as it comes- courageous in the moments when fear and shame are whispering doubt and armed with true faith and love for those around me. Wholehearted and 100% in the game no matter what comes my way. I believe that truth can really set you free, and I’ve noticed a HUGE difference in my state of mind since beginning her book. I do feel a LOT more free.

This wholehearted mindset has already created a deeper change even in my art and photography- I am SO excited to see how my life will bloom from here!

If you haven’t heard of her, buy her book or listen to these Ted Talks below.

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When I was 12 I began to write an autobiography that i titled,

"Lauren Lee, a horse of a different color".

 

 

From childhood Self discovery, storytelling and curiosity have always been the foundations of my heart.

 

 

The exploration of everything in life has always allured me farther and farther into risk, creativity and wonder. I have always been one to swim up stream and carve out a life that was a little bit unique from the status quo.

 

 

I harness all of these gifts and brings them to you through my photography experience. My keen eye for uncommon beauty, fearless sense of adventure and strong willed endurance and optimism provide you with the best possible photos.

 

 

Seemingly Effortlessly.

 

 

 

I hope you enjoy the colorful photos, stories and adventures that i share with you!

 

We have just uprooted from our hometown of Lubbock, Texas to move to Dripping Springs!

 

I am still taking sessions in BOTH locations as I travel back and forth to visit family. Follow my social media and subscribe to my newsletter for my latest travel dates.

 

 

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